Rhett Kaines: Why does g-ma need another car seat? Are you using an infant seat? Get one that uses a base and just buy an extra base. There is no reason for 2 car seats. If you are using a convertible car seat and plan to leave it in your car then you will need 2, but IMHO, you should buy the extra one for g-ma. It should not cost her money to watch your baby.
Lucrecia Laurito: The only way a car seat will protect your son in an accident is if it hasn't been in one before. The only way to know this is to purchase a new one. People lie all the time. You are right. Car seats and cribs are two things you should never get used. It's just much safer to buy new, and like you said, you don't want to leave it to chance when you're talking about your baby's safety.Tell her it's nothing personal, but that he cannot ride in a used seat. Realize that this may involve you buying a seat for her, or at least a base like you said. We ended up getting a used seat, and instead of thr! owing it out or anything, we set it up and my son sits in it and watches me work around the house. Works great for me.Good luck!...Show more
Adelle Weight: Certainly it is your right to want your child as safe as possible. If you want a new seat, buy it yourself.
Sharee Doak: You don't NEED another car seat. He can't go anywhere without one, so he'll be in one when he arrives at her house and he can use that one! What you might want is an extra seat BASE for her car, so that it's more convenient getting him in and out.
Dominic Sciancalepore: Wow people are really stupid and don't see anything wrong with a used car seat from a yard sale...humm...(usually I'm the nice one but that really makes me concerned that some people aren't informed about what's best for their child's safety...)I agree with the informed parents who are saying NOT to use that seat, people will tell you anything to get money for it, and she had no idea at all. She was trying to be as u! seful and helpful as possible by helping out and getting her o! wn car seat. Safety for your child is NO joke and nothing to play around with, I know one of my friends has offered to give me her old infant seat (from two years ago) but I know her and have for a long time, and I know it has never been in an accident or compromised in any way...did I accept it? NO! I would rather be safe than sorry, especially with this one, you aren't being stuck up or ungrateful or anything at all, its not a matter of being new or used its your childs SAFETY!If I were you, I would just go spend the 50 bucks and buy the base and take it to her and talk to her face to face. Tell her how much you appreciate her buying it for you but you are just worried about the safety of the seat (plus they expire after 5 years...) and I bet she would have had no idea about it. Her heart was in the right place 100% by doing that for you (I'm jealous my MIL is oblivous to these things complety lol) but I would just tell her why and tell her that you were going to buy her ! the base anyways and you never expected her to buy the seat in the first place. The carrier will most likely be easier to handle than a seat anyway. You are right on and seems like you have it totally together and figured out for whats best for son. Congrats and good luck! =)...Show more
Dick Ovdenk: It really doesnt matter whether you are justified or not - what you are is completely ungrateful. This woman is doing YOU a favour, but you probably couldn't see past the end of your nose to notice that. The moral of the story is, if you aren't happy about him being in a used car seat - lend her yours when she has your child, or buy her one you are happy for her to use. But most of all - say thank you, it goes a long way.
Chi Alfero: "i don't think i'm being stuck up or ungrateful at all"This isn't ungrateful? Holy balls lady...Thank her. Sincerely and profusely. Then apologise to her about how "I know it makes no sense since this seat was only used for six months" ! (NB: you can check the date of manufacture on the seat) but "this is ju! st something that gives me a lot of anxiety, I realise it's silly and over-the-top, but, you must remember how it was when you were a newbie with babies!" and tell her you went out and bought her a new one.Rational risk analysis would tell you to never put your baby in a car at all -- car accidents are a leading cause of death for children, even with car seats. But you are putting your kid in a car, yes? Hmm. Is your car the very latest model of something with top safety ratings, or is it just another drivable whatever? Hmm.All this stuff has a degree of risk attached. Recognise that by focusing on just one thing you are not being entirely reasonable.Which, with a new baby, is your prerogative. But how horrid to be rude to Grandma. Seriously, you do need to thank her....Show more
Corrinne Ruozzo: I totally agree that car seats are not something you ever buy used. It is a huge safety issue. However, she made the effort to get a car seat and if you don't want her using ! it then you need to buy her a car seat you do approve of her using.
Sook Hershkowitz: its not wrong to say that i want a used car set cause well u don't know whats been in it what type's of germ's u have are even what the Baby at the yard-sale done to it. so its not wrong to tell your mother in law that. by the way thus say that i don't want my own son to have a old/new car set.
Ollie Hamiel: No dont let your child be in a used car seat, you dont know the history there is no carfax on used carseats lol tell her to get a new one
Alphonso Brake: If your not comfortable buy one for her to use while the baby is at he house.
Chris Wilczewski: Don't be stuck up just because it's used. Someone's trash is another baby's treasure.
Cedric Grimstead: you are not being stuck up or ungrateful at all. people who said that are stupid and obviously dont care about the safety of their children. she really should have asked you first, and its stupid of her to ! just believe some random person selling a car seat that it wasnt in any! type of accidents and only used for x amount of time. i wouldnt allow my child to be in a car seat that came from a yard sale either. just buy a base for her to use in her car. offer to sell the one she bought, and give her the money....Show more
Collin Barter: also, i don't think i'm being stuck up or ungrateful at all. i'm just concerned about my child's safety. isn't it my right as a parent to want my child to be as safe as possible?and its not like i'm only buying new things! almost all of the things i've bought him are used. its just car seats seem to be something that you shouldn't chance..
Lana Uliano: the original plan was for my to buy her a base that goes with my car seat and to leave my car seat with her whenever she watches him..
Jammie Taddei: No you're definitely not wrong. Car seats are a lot like helmets in the sense where they can be involved in an accident and look fine on the outside, but the structural support on the inside can be comp! letely destroyed. It was nice that your mother in law bought the car seat and was thinking of him, but I would have a problem with him being in it as well, unless she was just using it as a carrier and not for in the car.
Becky Mosena: for me to buy**sorry! my fingers aren't typing well today!! lol
Robin Tommie: no u are not wrong i would not not put my babies in a used car seat because of germs
Abel Adger: Tell her you don't feel comfortable with her using a used car seat.You might have to go out and buy one yourself though. I know I wouldn't feel comfortable either.
Marylee Lucks: Tough one. The recommendation is that you NOT use a used carseat. First, check the bottom, where you will find an expiration date. ALL carseats have them. Also, even if a seat was not in an accident, it could have been left in a hot car for long periods of time- which compromises the plastic and makes it unsafe. Since it was bought at a yard sale, you don't know. I'! m not even sure I'd trust the person selling it to tell you the truth a! bout how old it is or whether it has been in an accident. Try checking with the hospital where you are delivering. If you tell them that you are unable to purchase a new one, many will either give you one or sell you one for cheap. They aren't fancy, but they are safe. Same with the fire department. Check with them, too. I don't think you are being stuck up or paranoid. You're a mom. You're being cautious and consciencious. That's your job! :)...Show more
Kirk Coolbeth: I would feel uncomfortable with it as well. How can you be sure that it wasn't in an accident? I would tell her that you do appreciate her getting that car seat, you still don't feel comfortable with the idea of it being used. If she gets upset, then that is her own hang up. She should also be concerned for your child's safety, not just on getting a good bargain.
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